Episode 35: When Your Kids Feel Too Independent with Shannon F.
EPISODE 35 THE PARENTING MENTOR: When Your Kids Feel Too Independent with Shannon F.
Shannon has a 6-year-old and an almost-8-year-old who are struggling with burnout from distance learning. Shannon is a very busy business owner, and as a result, her children have developed a disproportionate sense of independence. They are often verbally, and even sometimes physically, defiant.
Today, we talk about what’s behind this behavior. We talk about the power of quality time coupled with a kitchen timer. We discuss the small ways Shannon can give her kids more control over their lives, and I note the importance of letting your kids know they don’t have control over your emotions. We talk about how Shannon can apply my CLEARR Method to this situation. I also talk about how she can effectively explain to her kids that acting out emotions physically is perfectly okay, but that hitting people is not.
“Letting them know that they have control over our emotions allows them to keep doing and acting in those ways.”
- Sue Groner
This week on The Parenting Mentor:
- The power of quality time (quality not quantity)
- The power of a kitchen timer
- Little ways to give your kids more control
- Why your kids need to know they don’t have control over your emotions
- The CLEARR Method
- Acceptable vs. unacceptable ways to act out physically
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