Episode 44: When Your 2-Year-Old is Struggling for Control with Namasha S.
EPISODE 44 THE PARENTING MENTOR: When Your 2-Year-Old is Struggling for Control with Namasha S.
Namasha isn’t thrilled with the way she’s handling her 2.5-year-old daughter's small acts of defiance. Timeouts don’t work, and while negotiating sometimes does, it’s not what Namasha wants to continue to do. If you’re finding yourself telling your child that if they eat three more bites of broccoli, they’ll get a sweet treat, then this episode is for you.
Today, Namasha and I talk about what’s behind her daughter’s sudden rebellion. I point out that her daughter has just discovered that she has control in a few areas of her life--namely: food, potty training, and naps--and that it’s an exciting discovery. I note that when you let your child feel like she has control in some areas, she’ll stop trying so hard to gain it in other places. We talk about how Namasha can replace negotiations with consistent, non-judgmental consequences to actions, whether positive or negative. I share tips for keeping your patience when your young child is struggling to communicate, and I point out the power of hugs.
“If you can find things where it positions it as if she really does have the control, then I think a lot of those little things will go away. Because she needs control.”
- Sue Groner
This week on The Parenting Mentor:
What’s behind a 2-year-old’s rebellion
Tips for communicating and clarifying rules
Reframing and redefining negotiations
The three control areas of small children
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