Episode 39: When Your Child is Struggling for Control with Rachel J.
EPISODE 39 THE PARENTING MENTOR: When Your Child is Struggling for Control with Rachel J.
Rachel is struggling to get her kids up and out of the house in the mornings. In particular, her 5-year-old daughter resists putting her hair up, a task that will make it easier to do small tasks and projects and stop her from chewing on it. Rachel is looking for ways to convince her daughter that putting her hair up in the morning is good for her.
Today, we talk about what’s behind the resistance to putting hair up. I note that Rachel’s daughter has control over few things, and hair is one of them. I explain why, sometimes, it’s okay to allow your kids to have control. We talk about distinguishing which things are worth the effort they take to enforce, and I suggest that Rachel teach her daughter how to do her own hair. I also note the power of treating a new hairbrush as a special, exciting, and grownup treat.
“You could have control over the hair, but it’s unpleasant for everybody and it stresses you out.”
- Sue Groner
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