Episode 81: When Your Child Hates to Lose with Ruthie S
When your child hates to lose with Ruthie S
Ruthie’s 4 year old son is fiercely competitive. He wants to be first at everything. He races his mom and even if he loses he insists that he is the winner. She is not a fan of the “no, you’re not” “yes, I am” battle. While Ruthie wants to embrace her son’s competitive nature, acknowledging that it will serve him well, she needs some help handling his need to always win.
If you’re struggling with a child who can’t deal with losing at anything, listen along for strategies and perspective to help your child feel better about not always being the winner.
“It may not be that he necessarily needs to race and beat you. It may be just this act of seeing how fast he can run. And you can do it outside. You can set up a starting or finish and let him do these dashes. Time him, how long is it going to take him to run around the house. How many times can he do it, how fast can he do it today and in a week if he keeps practicing. Throwing in that concept how the practice is going to make him better and faster.” - Sue Groner
This week on The Parenting Mentor:
Tangible tips and games to teach your child about the concept of winning and losing.
Alter the “winning” goal by adjusting racing against others to racing against yourself.
- Changing your perspective and giving your child something fair to win at while utilizing empowering language.
- Helping your child understand and develop empathy for those that don’t win.
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